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Detailed Membership Guide


Do you believe Loth-i-Lonnath is exactly what you're looking for and you want to apply?

If the answer is 'Yes!' this guide is required reading before you apply for membership. Attempting the application without reading this page, and the subsequent links therein, may make the application more challenging.

(last edited Aug. 2019) 

Table of Contents


LiL Crest


Life in Loth-i-Lonnath

The Basics 
(RP, Names, Lore, Events)

Elven Compatibility 
(Teleri, Ñoldor, etc) 

Groups and Ranks within Loth-i-Lonnath

Class and Profession

The Mithdirith

Our Culture and Restrictions
(RP Locations, RP Travel, RP Style/look/feel)

Things We Will Not Tolerate

Final Important Notes

LiL Crest 



First and foremost, we are a ROLEPLAY kinship. We have a very particular outlook on our activity - a culture which we presume all recruits wish to embrace. Of course, we realise the difficulty this poses for prospective recruits outside of the kinship to grasp what exactly that culture is. This is why this guide exists, but the best way to discern what our kinship is like, is really to engage in roleplay with us for a while. This should be sufficient to establish whether we are suited to each other as players, both in style and in our approach to Elven lore.

We have a very particular view of Elven lore, one which attracts players who share our vision - who 'get' what we are about as a kinship. This is probably the factor that will decide whether you will find a happy home here and remain in LiL...or not. 

We make no apology about this! Our kinship is like a very harmonious family, something we are justly proud and protective of. If someone joins and are found to be at odds with the balance of the kinship, the officers will hold a meeting and decide if that recruit should remain or be refused membership. Simple as that.

A Ride Through the Heather


We expect that a prospective recruit has read up on the background of the kinship before applying. Application to LiL should only be considered if you have given serious thought to whether we are the right and proper home for you and your character. Approaches made on an ad hoc basis, just randomly looking for some kind of 'generic' Elven kinship will not be entertained. We are only interested in recruits who are genuinely inspired and attracted to what we do - recruiting for quantity without question is not our way. In short, do some research! This guide is provided to give you what you need to do that. 


Life in Loth-i-Lonnath


Life in Loth-i-Lonnath is slightly different from that in other kins. We do not focus on raids, pvp, instances etc. We focus kin activities purely on roleplay. As such we have chosen a role and location in Middle-earth. We stick to these parameters as closely as we can.
What you will find is a group of players doing what they can to act as a body of elves living their everyday lives in Falathlorn whose household is charged with guarding the Havens and maintaning safe passage there. These are our core parameters. As players we strive to give our elven characters a realistic life. Our elves have jobs/talents/quirks/interests/personal lives. We breath life into it this with our actions online. We have boring and mundane duties mixed with exciting assaults and interesting journeys that are centered around our core role - guarding the Havens.
Our role as guardians of the Havens gives us all a common roleplaying hook and purpose for our roleplaying story to revolve around. Our elven characters take this purpose seriously. This hook allows us to explore our characters while keeping things in perspective and not give in to too much personal drama.
On Patrol


The Basics

When we say you need to have...

...a strong desire to roleplay

To us this means your desire to roleplay and your desire to invest in that roleplay is stronger than your desire to do other things. This does not mean forsaking all game play, nor does it mean RPing every moment you're online. We don't. We've got max level members the same as other kins. We enjoy questing, fellowship, epic battles, etc but view this as OOC fun between kinmates. We simply view RP as something that should happen for you regularly with or without scheduled events guiding you. That being said, we schedule about one RP kin event a week and can schedule more or less depending on the time of year, or what story is going on in the kin, and who's available to host. Sometimes, if the Mithdirith are very active, there could be more events too. However, regardless of the number of events, members RP within the kin throughout the week with or without scheduled events. We encourage members to develop their characters through interaction with other kin members weaving stories in and out of larger story arcs for the kin. Some of the best RP can be had just by immersing yourself with your fellow kinmates randomly outside of kin events. This is the best place to meet like-minded Elven RPers to bring your Tolkien Elf to life.


See our Roleplaying Guide for details.


...a proper Elven name

If you're an old pro at Tolkien Elven RP, you'll know what we mean by a proper Elven name. If you're new to it, then this can be a stumbling block for new Elven RPers. However, we welcome new RPers and will help you find a suitable Elven name if you wish it.


Cirdamir and Lothoniel



Dancing for the First time


It must be understood that names are a serious matter here. Tolkien was a lingquist. Language was a primary factor in his writings. To know a being's language, was to know something about that being. Tolkien's character names were not arbitrary. They meant something based on the languages he created.

So...We will not recruit anyone who violates the LOTRO naming policy, the RP server naming policy, or any name we feel violates the spirit of that policy. Names that are clearly not Elven names will be rejected whether they violate LOTRO/server policy or not. We give preference to those who have clearly given thought to their Sindarin Elven name, especially where the meaning of the name speaks to something specific about the character. (Quenya names are accepted, but not preferred because Quenya during the 3rd age wasn't in favor.) Names do not have to be 100% perfect in Sindarin (or Quenya) either because we understand the dwindling availability of names, but at the bare minimum, they need to be passable as Elven in sound and look to be considered for membership. Ultimately, we are looking for a good effort, not perfection. Furthermore, names may not be too much like an existing character in Tolkien's world, nor reflect famous characters from any other genre, movie, book, etc. Names that may be perfect Sindarin or Quenya must also be appropriate for an elf; therefore it is advisable to AVOID creating a title within your name, nor refer to the Valar, nor create a lewd or inapproprate name/phrase using Sindarin or Quenya. Just because it's in Sindarin, doesn't mean we'll let these instances slide by. Use good common sense and create a reasonable name.

We know this is a touchy subject for some people, but if you want to join this well established highly immersive RP kin, these are our rules subject to our interpretation.

Examples of bad names:
Dilboriel, Superbus, Dirkrav, Lordovu, Jandalf, Foxbane, Moatsart, Ihelpu Ulikethat, Cindyluhoo, Dritzs, Aragorndir, Bobdabadaz, Elrick Melbon, Kristofur, Canwise, Quendiel, Braniff, Flowerseed, Anakindir Elfwalker

If you don't see what's wrong with these names for an immersive Tolkien Elven RP kin, we are probably not the right fit for each other, but we're willing to help you if you wish it.

If you are rejected due to your name, you have two choices; create another elven character with an appropriate name, or purchase a name change with LP for the rejected character. In either instance, you should talk to an officer first to be sure your new name will be accepted.

If this policy upsets you, then we're simply not the kin for you.

Helpful links

Elven Naming Traditions of Middle-earth
Sindarin Name Lists (and helpful information)
LOTRO Naming Policy
LOTRO RP Server Rules understanding of Tolkien Elves and Middle-Earth lore

We strive to play by established lore for Tolkien Elves. There is a significant difference between D&D Elves and JRR Tolkien's authentic Middle-earth version. Thus, it is extremely helpful to know enough about the lore and culture of the Elves in Middle-Earth in order to fit in well with the members of this kin. Even though we mainly attract seasoned Tolkien RPers, no one needs to be an expert. All levels of knowledge are welcome as long as you are willing to read a few links and design your character accordingly. Everyone starts somewhere. We may be a serious immersive RPing kin, but we are friendly about it. We welcome those eager to embrace Elven culture in Middle-Earth. Sometimes the best roleplayers turn out to be the ones brand new to it.

Helpful links on Elves in Middle-Earth

Elven Life Cycle
Elven Characteristics
Elves (a brief history)
Elves (another brief history)




See our Roleplaying Guide for details on how we integrate the above information.

If you've already read many of the books, know that we use lore mainly from these books: The Silmarillion, The Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit and Unfinished Tales. We consider these core canon lore. If you've read every book in the History of Middle-Earth series by JRR Tolkien's son, Christopher Tolkien, that's good information, but may not always work well if it conflicts with the aforementioned core books. These additional books are mainly to show the different unfinished writings of his father and should be considered an academic exploration of the writings of Tolkien. For our RP purposes, the core books will always supersede any inconsistencies of the stories.

It is also worth noting that LOTRO was developed using a great deal of Middle-Earth Role-playing game (MERP) elements. Such as names of places, etc. While not officially canon, sometimes we can not escape these elements as we use LOTRO as our backdrop to RP in. It's perfectly acceptable to acknowledge place names from MERP that are not part of canon lore, but used prominently in the world, such as Duillond and Edhelion.

...availability to attend kin events

Laurelin is a European server and we are primarily a European kinship. Our prime hours of activity will be roughly between ~1:00PM to ~6:00pm Servertime. (Use /servertime in game to assist you.) Our activity during any given day is going to reflect this reality. For an example, if you live in the United Kingdom, we generally start events around 7 or 8 PM. This means if you live in North America that our events may be around your lunchtime, or after. There's a 5-8 hour time difference depending on which North American time zone you are in. We do in fact welcome NA players, however, you will need to be able to attend kin events in order to become a member of the kin. Know what you're signing up for. We are an EU kin. Presently, our kin night is on Tue at 3:00PM Servertime.

Durring your trial period, we strongly recommend you to attend kin events as often as possible. This will help us determine whether you progress to a full member. If we never RP with you, we won't be able to assess you and you will be dropped from trial membership.

Furthermore, serving members of the Mithdirith - including Nethvaed (trainees of the Mithdirith) - are required to attend muster activity. If you have a goal of becoming Mithdirith, understand that it is a deeper commitment in terms of time and responsibility. You should demonstrate your commitment to timely attendance of kin events consistently long before requesting to be apart of our Mithdirith. 

One final note on participation -  You will get out of LiL, what you put into it. If you can't find the time to attend scheduled events, you can't complain about there being no activity in LiL. Moreover, we give our members plenty of space to create their own roleplaying with kinmates. RP does not require an event. If you want RP, create it. If you want more activity, attend events or create your own event. 


Elven Compatibility



Use the chart above to help you understand the below information on which elves are suitable for membership in Loth-i-Lonnath.


  • Teleri (Úmanyar) are the majority of our membership and typically fit in best. The Teleri are a broad group of elves with several branches. Because this kinship is based in Lindon, we give significant favour to Falathrim. The Falathrim were the shoreland Elves of the western shores of the Middle-earth who took Círdan as their lord. If you wish to improve your chances of membership, create an uncomplicated Falathrim elf. We RP our love of the sea and the love of the Grey Havens. We are not fiery, prideful or impulsive. We RP the wisdom that comes with the long ages of Middle-Earth with thoughtful action. We enjoy wine and good cheer, singing, music and dancing. When roused to action, we are a formidable force.

Teleri information 1
Teleri information 2

Preferred branch = Teleri/Sindar/Falathrim

  • Ñoldor may not fit in as well here as other Elves, but they are not denied. Some enjoy RPing Ñoldo personalities with more fire and pride than would be acceptable in this kin. So keep that in mind. Your successful completion of trial membership will depend solely on how you RP your Ñoldo.

(Ñoldor born in the Second Age would pose less difficulty than First Age Ñoldor which are a touch trickier, given the enmities that were very much aflame in that time. Hence, it is unlikely a Ñoldo of such heritage would comfortably fit into our household. We recommend they apply to a more appropriate kinship, such as Vanimar.)

Ñoldor information 1
Ñoldor information 2

  • Vanyar are denied, because Vanyar should not exist in Middle-Earth during the 3rd age. However, your elf may be a descendant of a Vanya elf, but may not be Vanya. In this instance you would need to identify yourself as either Teler or Ñoldo depending on your family tree, etc. However, even this case would be rare, and therefore not recommended, especially for new roleplayers and novices of lore. If you're new, or inexperienced, keep it simple and stick with Teleri.

Vanyar information 1
Vanyar information 2

  • Avari are denied. This group of elves have mostly faded away or interbred with other groups until they no longer exist as a distinct group. While there may be a very small number still skulking about at this point in history, full blooded Avari should be rare, thus we do not wish to encourage the creation of Avari by issuing membership to them. Furthermore, people have different ideas about 'dark elves' and therefore we wish to avoid unpleasant debate over the matter. Please seek out an Avari kin if your character is Avar.

(Since some RPers have used the existence of Eöl as a rationalization to use Avari as an excuse to create Drow characters, our stance is No, we do not support this. First and foremost, there are NO Dungeons & Dragons style dark elves (Drow) in Middle-Earth. As such, we do not acknowledge their existence. Secondly, the use of the term "dark elves" in Tolkien's world refers mainly to the Moriquendi, which were the elves that did not behold the light of the Two Trees of Valinor and would apply to any elf who was born and not been to Valinor, thus there is nothing 'dark' about it. It does not have sinister meaning. Third, the term was sometimes used for elves that were enslaved by Morgoth and then released later. Again, this has nothing to do with Drow. Fourth and finally, Eöl was basically THE "dark elf", which again had nothing to do with being a Drow. He was however a 'bad guy' and executed, thus if one wishes to model their character after Eöl, there would be no way we'd want that character in LiL.)


  • Unbegotten elves are denied. These are the first 144 elves, created by Eru, who awoke at the bay of Cuiviénen beneath the stars. Collectively they are the founding mothers and fathers of all elves of Middle-Earth. At the end of the third age, most of these ancient elves would have passed on to Aman already. While it may be possible to argue for the existences of one still lurking in the 3rd age, we prefer not to go there. One would need to be an expert on every book written by Tolkien to pull off such a character realistically. Moreover, even if one were a self-proclaimed expert, creating an unbegotten elf is essentially saying your character is akin to the biblical "Adam" or "Eve" of the elves. It crosses into the realm of pretentiousness.


A note about In-Game Races

It should go without saying that in order to be a member of LiL, one must have an Elf* by in-game character generation. With the addition of the High Elf* race in-game, we felt it was important to clarify our position with the following statement: High Elves, as an in-game race, will be accepted for membership under the same restrictions as noted above with Elven Compatibility.  

What does this mean?

Historically, RPers playing an Elf have been able to RP as any of the other 'breeds' or branches of elves while in-character. High Elves (Ñoldor), as an in-character RP choice, have already existed in-game with the existing Elf race since the launch of the game. Thus, the same flexibility will apply to players with High Elves. One may RP their High Elf as Teler the same way one may RP their Elf as Ñoldo. This means we are essentially ignoring the redundancy of having High Elves as a separate race. This seems fair to us considering that elven characters have always been able to RP as the elven breed of their choice. We would not wish to suddenly say that all Elf characters can now no longer be Ñoldor simply because SSG decided to do something silly with the character races. Ultimately, both are virtually the same genetically anyway. Hence, we welcome RPers with High Elf characters under the same rules as noted above under Elven Compatibility. If you RP your High Elf as Teler, or a 2nd/3rd age Ñoldo, either are acceptable RP choices regardless of which in-game race you built your character with.

* When Elf or High Elf is in BOLD print, it is a reference to the in-game mechanic of choosing either Elf or High Elf as a race for your character, NOT the RP choice of being Teler or Ñoldo or any other branch of the elves.


Groups and Ranks within Loth-i-Lonnath


Every member of the herth (a household under a lord or lady) is considered Gwaith-i-Lonnath, People of the Havens. Upon full membership, this is what you are. Within the kinship we have designated roleplaying groups to further enhance the roleplaying experience. It is optional to join any of the following groups. For more information about each group, select the link provided.

• The Mithdirith, our martial order
• The Nothrim, our household staff
• Golwen Edhil, our scholars
• Telegaint, our musicians


In-game Kinship Rank Roleplay Definition In-Character Groups OOC

An edhel that seeks to live in
Falathlorn and serve our herth.


Trial member

Kinsman / Kinswoman

An edhel that lives in Falathlorn
and has proved worthy of
serving our herth.


• The Mithdirith, our martial order
• The Nothrim, our household staff
• Golwen Edhil, our scholars
• Telegaint, our musicians

All full members

This kinship rank includes
IC officers who are not OOC officers under Caun / Aranel

Caun / Aranel

An edhel in service to our herth
who is an officer in the Mithdirith.

The Conin, the officers of the kinship

Addressed as Caun or Aranel

Officers of the kinship
both IC and OOC

These officers carry more authority than those under Kinsman / Kinswoman

Tûr / Hiril

An edhel who was a caun or aranel
and promoted to lead our herth.

Hîr or Hiril of Loth-i-Lonnath

Addressed as Hîr or Hiril
Sometimes addressed as Tûr

Leader of the kinship
both IC and OOC

Einior / Rîn

The edhel that founded our herth.

Founder of the herth, Loth-i-Lonnath

Addressed as Hirgonui

This rank belongs exclusively to Hirgonui Curugirion by game design for creating the kinship, Loth-i-Lonnath. This rank is unalterable within the game.


Mithdirith front line


Class and Profession


While we do not hold strictly to class defining your role, we do utilize what the game offers us. Regarding the Mithdirith, this generally means Hunters become scouts, and only the martial fighting classes like Wardens, Guardians and Champions make up the main fighting body. We do have some healers who have a martial class but do not act or look like warriors while they are roleplaying. As a general rule no other classes join the Mithdirith. Because we only roleplay battles, having class balance within the martial order isn't required. That being said, if a group of members wish to enjoy an OOC night of featured instances/skirmishes/quests our RP restrictions would not apply. All classes would be welcome to participate.

If RL constraints affect your game time then a scout offers ideal flexibility as you can be assigned away from the main group for a time. If you happen to have a Champion or Guardian for example this would not exclude you from becoming a scout. You would be given scout training in game via RP and once the garb of the scout is adopted, your appearance and role is then altered.

Like many things common sense is required and some classes may not be suitable for certain roles in the context of roleplay and aesthetics. The fine sight of a group of wardens fighting in formation would not look so good with a Loremaster and pet in the middle trying to look like them! Likewise, Runekeepers are unsuitable for membership of the Mithdirith - though perfect for playing scholars of the enclave! 

In summary the following guide should help you determine how you may fit into our optional groups.

The Mithdirith, our martial order *
Wardens, Guardians, Champions, Hunters 

The Nothrim, our household staff
All Classes
• Those who focus on crafting fit best here as well but should be sure to dress the part

Golwen Edhil, our scholars
Loremasters and Runekeepers
Historians who are primarily Scholars by crafting profession are welcome as well as long as they dress the part outside of their Class.

Telegaint, our musicians
Minstrels preferred but any member who is able to play an instrument may participate.














 * We are not accepting Captains for the Mithdirith, but may for general membership.


The Mithdirith


Because becoming part of our Mithdirith is sought after more than our other groups, and in truth, what we have been historically known for, it must be made clear that if you apply to join LiL, you are applying to become a civilian member of our kin, Gwaith-i-Lonnath, to roleplay being an elven resident of Falathlorn (or Lindon area). To join our martial order, you must first become a full member and then roleplay into the Mithdirith over a period of time. We recommend becoming part of the Nothrim, the household staff that serves the herth and the Mithdirith.
To be part of the Mithdirith is an honour reserved for kin members who put in the time and effort necessary to roleplay well and complete Mithdirith training. It requires a commitment to attend muster as well.
That being said, the two parts of our kin, the martial order and our Falathlorn residents, are of equal importance. Citizens of Falathlorn are the life blood of the kin and will likely have a majority of our membership. There is freedom to being a citizen that in someways the Mithdirith do not have. So embrace being a citizen for now.
It should be noted however that the nature of our adopted role (based on our RP choices) means the Mithdirith seek to act as a trained body of elven soldiery....not a mob of wildmen. This requires a certain amount of input from each player to make the group work harmoniously. No one here seeks personal glory over their comrades. We all work to support each other. Even if your role is essentially a solitary one like a scout, you will still need to be mindful of the kin as a whole. So please consider this before you decide to pursue a role within the Mithdirith.
For more about the Mithdirith, read "The Mithdirith, Our Martial Order"
Mithdirith Ceremony


Our Culture and Restrictions


The most important aspect of becoming a member, is establishing your compatibility with our philosophy. While not everyone will agree with our way of roleplaying, to be a member of this kin, you will need to embrace it, and as our founding member has said, you need "to hunger for it!"


RP Locations

Most of the serious elven roleplaying community will be found in Rivendell and Falathlorn, thus our roleplaying will be mainly in these places. We do not roleplay in Bree, or Hobbiton. It is not lore friendly for an elf to be seen in these places, especially casually having a beer at the Prancing Pony. Additionally, many roleplayers who frequent the Pony, have a style that conflicts with our philosophy. From vampire elves to half orc hobbits, it's just not part of our view. While everyone has a right to roleplay as they wish, in this kin, we take a more strict lore approach. Interacting with such roleplayers would make it difficult for us to maintain lore friendly immersion. Thus we feel Bree - and indeed all Breeland townships - best avoided IC. If you desire to meet with Mannish acquaintances, there are many fine glades in the lands nearby where you can meet under the stars - without drawing untoward attention. It is known that many unfriendly eyes wander the streets of Bree in these troubled days; for Elves to converse with locals within the town may cost those brave Dunedain their lives and further the goals of the Enemy. 

Note that this point is non-negotiable! If you feel it's fine for Galadriel and Legolas to prop up the bar in the Pony, then Loth-i-Lonnath is definitely not the kinship for you.


RP Traveling (Time/Space Issues)

Conversation in Rivendell

We take a realistic view of travel and keep our characters within appropriate time/space boundaries while roleplaying. Thus, hopping around Middle-Earth with available ports is not our way. This means if you've been roleplaying your character in Duillond, but there's a roleplaying event in Rivendell in two days, you would not make the event because it takes over two weeks of travel (likely closer to three) to get to Rivendell.  Furthermore, one does not casually travel between Lindon and Rivendell. It is a serious journey. In-character, danger exists upon the road in-between and it is best traveled in a group, which is why we travel together a few times a year to give members the opportunity to roleplay in both areas of the world. When we do this, we spend two or more kin nights usually over two weeks to simulate the time in traveling. This is meant to give a realistic feel to time and distance traveled. It gives us a different backdrop to RP with as well. We travel on horseback, make camp, and enjoy the journey along the way. Some may choose to stay in Duillond when we do this, which also adds something to the our roleplaying. In-character, friends and family may separate for a season just to take the journey to Rivendell further changing the dynamic of the roleplaying during this time. 

Naturally, if you are questing or leveling OOC, you can go wherever you must - just remember to /rp off.


 RP Time Period (When are we in Middle-Earth?)

As for the in-game timeline, epic quests, expansions, etc, we don't strictly follow the developers in-game timeline nor do we consider their quests as part of our characters. We, as common elves, wouldn't know specifics about the Fellowship, the Ring, where it is, who has it, or where it's going. That information would be known only to the those who needed to, such as Elrond and other high leaders. It would never have been common knowledge as the information was far too sensitive. We only know that war is upon all free people, the time of men is at hand, and our time as elves in Middle-Earth is coming to an end. Thus, we play in a time period at the end of the Third Age in a slightly more generic sense than the specific time-line of the SSG developers.


Style, Look and Feel

We have a particular style and feel, from the way we dress, the mounts we ride, to our houses and yards. We present ourselves as the living elves of Middle-earth. Not only will you be expected to embrace our philosophy, you will need to 'live it' through the way your character roleplays and appears.  Loth-i-Lonnath has always had a theme of blues and whites and don simple outfits for daily wear. At former events, Loth-i-Lonnath shines bright. If you decide to part of our military, you will be given a uniform and expected to have an appropriate white mount and weapons to match. See the below link regarding specifics on this topic.

About Clothing, Uniforms, Weapons, Mounts (under construction, please return at a later time to follow this link)

About Titles: You won't see silly, immersion breaking titles around our names either. Arwen, Pie Eating Champion (while funny) is NOT lore friendly for an elf. When in doubt about the lore friendly nature of a title, or cultural impact, just don't wear it. Keep it simple. There's plenty of people out there with names that stretch across the computer monitor already.

About Housing: Our kinship homestead is entirely owned by members, in fact, most of the houses were bought by our Tûr, Hiril Lothoniel. Our Tûr designed the entire zone to look elven and be as immersion friendly as possible. It's the most elven friendly neighborhood on the server. In order to achieve this blissful state of elven decorating nirvana, yards in our kin homestead are kept free of immersion breaking items. Would an elf have dwarven guards, statues of shrews, a preposterously large model of Orthanc, an irrationally enormous Gondorian signal fire, yard gnomes or broken hobbit wagons in their yard? ...erm No. You'll find flora consistency throughout our neighborhood, with appropriate trees, elven statues, the occasional elven accent piece, etc. If you have the same elven heart we do, once you visit our estate, you'll never want to leave. It is truly elven.

Being a member of LiL means that each member acts as an ambassador of the kin, whether you are /rp on or off. How you look and behave reflects on the entire kinship. If you are rude or act like an idiot in front of others on the server, even while /rp off ...the rest of your kinmates will not be impressed. This will most likely result in you being ejected from the kin. Which leads us to our next section...

A Warden


Two Steeds



We will not tolerate...


...Excessive drama, both in and out of character.

This means if your character is always in trouble or always hurt, tragically disturbed, being the center of attention, OR  totally flawless, the best at everything, falling in love with everyone, you will receive Le Boot. We don't want "Mary Sue" characters here. If this is how you have fun RPing, that's fine, but take it someplace else.

Occasional IC drama is fine in moderation. It adds something colourful to the RP, but if that's your style every day, we won't welcome it. Everyone will have moments of IC drama occasionally but we use it like a fine spice with the motto "A little bit goes a long way". When it doubt avoid IC drama until you are comfortable with where the IC line is. Remember the section above titled "Life in Loth-i-Lonnath"? That's what we're after. Officers of the kin may set out to create RP stories for the kin that may be dramatic, but it is a joint leadership decision meant to serve the kin. It's their job.

Out of character, we pride ourselves on being a drama free kin. If you like to a gossip, stir up trouble, spread rumors about other players, are regularly bringing your recent real life drama into kinchat for the entire kin to read daily, we won't welcome that either.


If you're the master of all you know about Tolkien and making sure us little people know it; OR if you 'god-mod' in any way - don't expect to last long here.

If you've made your character a very important person of high regard that we're all supposed to respect and bow to; OR, ancient and overly powerfully with text book knowledge of the history of Arda which you express with annoying grandiloquence - don't expect to last long here.

Furthermore, we're not personal friends with any canon character in this kinship. No, you can't be royality either. We're not here to manifest your wish fullfillment character. If you want to write that kind of fan-fiction, take it elsewhere.

To be well respected in this kin (and on the server for that matter) you need to earn it with humility, gratitude, a team spirit approach, and ultimately being a great RPer that people want to be around. If you apply for membership in this kin, you are applying to RP as an ordinary citizen of Lindon. Everything else is earned through fabulous roleplaying.

Again...Your character may not be related to, OR be on a first name bases with any famous/canon character.

Examples of what not to do:

• You're the ex-girlfriend of Legolas
• You're Elrond's best mate and dine with him in Rivendell.
• You're Círdan's personal seafood chief.
• You somehow helped Fëanor create the Silmarils.
• You're the captain of Thranduil's guard.
• You just happen to be Galadriel's 1st cousin.
• You took a stroll with Finwë at the bay Cuiviénen.
• You were Eärendil's first officer on Vingilótë.

Are you getting the message here? In most cases, staying away from famous/canon characters being in your character history is best, and preferred. Just be sensable and write a story for your character that doesn't rely on famous names to hold it up.

...Rudeness, argumentative, or inappropriate kinchat

We are a kinship of older adults and our humour in kinchat (which is OOC) may reflect that from time to time. However someone who is crude, rude, argumentative, and regularly crosses the line of good taste will be asked to refrain from it and if it's bad enough, be removed from the kin. Appropriate kinchat really should be common sense behavior for most and thankfully, this has not been much of an issue.

... Pushing Real Life Social / Political Issues 

We welcome good role-players regardless of real life background. Our membership is diverse. However, when it comes to role-playing, if it's not in Middle-earth, we don't bring it into role-play. Real life politics, gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, gluten intolerance, etc.... are not part of Middle-Earth lore. We want to stay within Middle-earth as Tolkien wrote it when it comes to RP. It's as simple as that. Discussion of the above RL topics are perfectly acceptable OOC in kinchat as long as it is kept respectful and friendly no matter how you identify in RL.

...Bad behavior in /world chat or any public channel

It may be tempting when some anti-roleplayer is putting down the RP community in world chat, or is incapable of understanding why there is a RP server naming policy, or perhaps even saying rude things about someone you know, but do not engage in heated arguments with these people. Do not feed the trolls. We are cut from a different cloth. If you react, react with grace. It's okay to defend yourself, but don't let it degrade into behavior unbefitting a member of this kin. Otherwise, you will receive Le Boot.

And on that note...

  • We are not the RP server police. So don't act like it. 
  • We are not the name police either. Just quietly report bad names with the in-game function to SSG. The more people that do that, the better the chances that SSG will enforce the RP server policies.

To report a bad name when online, open the System Menu, click on Help, select New Ticket from the bottom menu, then select Naming Violation from the drop down menu at the top of that window. Follow the instructions when the window changes.

Advice for reporting names: In the big text field titled 'Enter a brief description of your problem' name the character, include the full name spelled exactly the way they spell it. Explain why you believe the name is in violation. In some cases, you may need to include the exact text of the naming rule being broken, and even include a link to the policy page. In instances where the character name is a poorly spelled version of a famous character in any genre (such as: Arrwen, Legolasss, Tiewhen Lannuster, Malkum Rinolds, Jonnluke Picarrd), be specific and include the famous character name to compare with the player name so that the GM sees exactly why it's a violation. This is to help the GM come to a favorable outcome. Not all GMs understand lore or names, nor are they all experts on every policy, and frankly some don't care. But WE care, so to assist your argument,  be polite, business-like, concise, and specific. This really does help get names changed that do not belong on the RP server. If naming is something you feel strongly about, the above advice is the best way to handle it.


Final Important Notes


  • LiL is a special place. It is our home - and very much our family - when we log into Laurelin.
  • We are a mature (yes in age!) group of gamers so bear that in mind if you are considering to apply to join the kin. 18+ is preferred. We look for those who are patient and have a mind for the feelings of others.
  • We are very selective with recruitment. If you're just trying out for any old Elven kinship, then jog on. You have to really want membership in our kin - to hunger for it! Otherwise, the result will be a mutual waste of time.
  • If you are interested in us, find our events and RP with us.
  • Don't spam LiL members with excessive IMs and respect the privacy of LiL members who are /anon or /AFK. Send in-game mail. This allows the member the freedom to respond more thoughtfully.
  • Respect the RP name flag. If the name is white, there's a good chance that it's okay to try some random RP. If it's not white, then the member isn't RPing at that time. (sometimes people forget though so just be polite about it.)
  • The membership application is in two parts. The second part is long (~35 questions) and will challenge you. Make sure you have read and understood the above page, followed the links on this page too, and feel confident in the knowledge therein before you apply.
  • If you truly feel you belong with us and have given it long and deep thought...then post your application...begin that journey!


This guide is not meant to be 100% comprehensive. Other things may influence an individual's chances; these will be addressed on a case-by-case basis. Personality and compatibility matter.


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